It went well. Really well.
Most important thing is that Jordan really likes Theresa. He said she reminds him of his guidance counselor whom he adores.
It was kind of just a discovery session about what brought us there. We went through the thing that happened last Wednesday then went into things that are bothering Jordan.
She agrees with me that he needs some coping skills and that we need to get him feeling good about himself. We’re going to work on him changing what he can and learning to deal with what he can’t change.
We’re also going to start journals for my oldest 2. When they are upset, angry, happy, whatever, I’m going to have them write in it or draw a picture of whatever made them feel the way they do. Help them get some of that out. Jordan thought it was silly until I told him, Jordan do you know why I blog? He said, no. I said, it’s my journal. I get out everything that’s on my mind and start over fresh. Yes, now I have more stuff on it than just journaling, but it’s main purpose is to write about what’s going on. I’ve never been good at keeping a written diary, but I’ve been blogging for 4 years. I would keep doing it even if I had no readers – which I didn’t for quite awhile. 
I even plan on publishing my blog into a book with just my journaling entries for my kids to have when they get older. Did you know you can do that? I found out about it a couple of years ago and thought it was a fabulous idea to go along with the photo books for them that I have our scrap pages put into.
You can check those out if you want to:
I’ve heard that you do this on LuLu also.
Since I’ve been blogging for 4 years with no signs of stopping, I might need more than 1 book.
I just know that kids like to go back and read their parents letters, diaries, all that when they are older and their parents are gone. I’d like to have that for my kids.
Jordan was thinking last night instead of using a notebook, he might use his computer. (He’s got a 7″ ASUS Eee PC 2G Surf
The counselor also wanted me to get the school board policy on bullying. In the handbook it says to see that policy on specifics regarding bullying rules. There should be something more we can do, Iowa has an anti-bullying law and I need to know how to use it if the school doesn’t follow through with it like they have promised they would.
She gave me some information to read through that will show me what to do for Jordan if this ever happens again (the last Wed incident) and is starting to give Jordan tools to help him learn how to deal with his feelings.
She had some puppets. Jordan remembered that he wants puppets. Yep, my almost 11 year old wants a puppet. I must have looked at the lady funny because she (and his guidance counselor later) told me that puppets are great tools for kids. They are able to say things through the puppet that they aren’t comfortable saying themselves. I can believe that. You should hear some of the things Alyce’s barbies say. That child is just a fountain of info when she doesn’t know you’re listening.
I need to look through my papers because we covered a lot of stuff, but it was all good. And Jordan and I were feeling good when we left, except he didn’t want to go back to school. But, I took him.
Oh, I found out something else. Jordan has never told me that he’s cried on the bus before. He started crying there, telling her how this set of boys is so mean they make him cry, then they make fun of him for crying.
I know. I need to start taking him every day. It’s find in the spring when it’s nice out, but when it’s below 0 and I have to take a baby out in it, it’s not easy. I wish there was a better way. I wish they’d just kick those kids off the bus once and for all. How many incidences does their need to be over all? Before Christmas, Zayan was suspended from the bus for 7 days because of like the 6th bus issue with him. It’s just ridiculous. Know what happened when he got back on? He gave Jordan grief because his mom had to walk him to school every day. (It’s probably 4 miles from where we live to school.) Is that my son’s fault? I think not. I think that’s your own fault for not controlling your own behavior.
When I talked to his guidance counselor at school she told me she had stepped in before this incident with the normal boys that give him trouble in the bus line (and on the bus) escalated. She hoped it didn’t spill over onto the bus. And if it did to let her know today. I felt like crap until he got home. That was the whole reason he didn’t want to go back to school. He had a feeling that something bad was going to happen on the bus. Thank goodness the counselor was there because the kids were seated far away from Jordan and nothing further happened.
Hopefully we’re on the right path here.
At least I thought until the kids came home. Last night all I heard was yelling, screaming, crying, taunting, teasing. People were sent to their beds for 20 minutes at a time with nothing to do but lay there. Katiana fell asleep the 2nd time she was sent. I just wanted to take a few excedrin migraine and lay down with a pillow over my head and pass out. But, the mommies code doesn’t call of that when you have 4 children doing their best to drive each other up a wall.
I did manage to start my KettleWorX program with Jordan in a period of sanity amid the chaos that happened most of the night. We both got our 20 minute work out in.
Can I say today…… oh my poor thighs, and butt, and arms. Arms not quite as much. My thighs still feel like spaghetti this morning. Thank God I get a day off in between yesterday and the next work out. I’m amazed that in 20 minutes of something that was so low impact that I have spaghetti legs the next day. I think I’m going to like this.
Jordan said he had spaghetti legs this morning too. That was his excuse for why he wasn’t even dressed yet 7 minutes before the bus was to get there. Took him 45 minutes to take a shower. Then he had to air dry, because his legs felt like spaghetti. Yep, he sat in his chair and air dried. Doesn’t matter that he lost his DS for tonight because he wasn’t listening. Doesn’t matter that he lost a few other things. He needed to air dry.
Mind you, Jordan air dries every morning, with and without working out.
Katiana is in and out of the shower and dressed in like 25 minutes. That’s including me brushing and doing her hair. Jordan, needs that whole hour and 20 minutes to get ready and if I didn’t stay on him, he’d need more.
Oh well, and so is another day in the life of my kids and I.
Love this song! Avril Lavigne – Alice for the soon to be released Alice In Wonderland (March 2010). I can’t wait to see this movie! Love me some Johnny Depp!
And our Ricky Martin tweet of the day is a shout out to the uber talented, muy guapo, Mr Tommy Torres!
Image is linked to Tommy’s good news.
¡Felicidades to Tommy Torres! He’s an excellent artist who deserves the recognition!
Have a great day!
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