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You know, I wasn’t too excited about going. And now I wish we were there rather than here trying to deal with what we are dealing with.
If you have been to DST and read my thread about emergency passports, you’ve already read what has happened, I’m going to post here. I just need to type.
Do you remember when I went off a little about how I like John McCain, and kind of went off on an immigration thing? I told you about Pato’s dad being sick?
Well, yesterday he went to a new specialist. His doctors have pretty much exhausted all options and sent him to this other doctor. We got a call from his sister from Mexico. His dad was told he has 2 months too live. His kidneys and heart are failing. (Pato used the word destroyed.) They asked about a pacemaker and kidney transplant. His doctor said he wouldn’t make it through the operation. His heart is in that bad of shape. And even if he did, it would only add a month or so onto his life. That I didn’t understand. I mean, if he made it and he had the pacemaker and a new kidney, wouldn’t that make it better? I don’t understand.
And I’m so stinking mad at the American Embassy in Mexico right now for denying his medical Visa. What if they had approved it? Would he have been up here now with a shot at more of a life? His dad isn’t even what we would think of as old. He’s barely 50. Younger than both of my parents. When I was going off on my rant about our government, Pato said, Heather, we have good doctors in Mexico. We really do. The problem is to get to a doctor who can help him, they have to drive to Mexico City, I can’t remember if it’s a 6 hour drive each way or a 3 hour drive each way. There’s 6 hours there somewhere. Pato’s mom doesn’t drive. And his sister didn’t used to drive out of the city that they live in.
When we went to Mexico last time, Jordan and I were there for 2 weeks. Pato stayed for 5 months because there was no one to drive his dad back and forth to Mexico City. And that was when his surgeries had started. I guess driving in Mexico City is absolutely crazy dangerous. He said it’s worse than any American city he has driven in. I was scared when we were driving in Leon, Mexico. And he said, it’s 200 times worse than Leon.
I have no idea who is driving his dad around there now. Maybe Yudi (his sister) has learned how to drive in a more congested area?
So, where does that leave us right now? Completely up in the air. Understandably, Pato wants to leave, like yesterday. His dad has never met the girls and he has been begging us to bring them down since Katiana was a baby. We just haven’t been able to afford it.
Now we’re trying to figure out whether we can afford for all of us to go to Mexico right now, or if I have to stay back with the kids. Passports need to be gotten, I have to figure out school for Jordan. Obviously we can’t be gone that long because of him being in school, but Pato wants to go until something happens. Rent has to be paid in advance. Bills. Ugh, my head is spinning thinking of everything that has to be done.
Even if he goes by himself, I told him that I want rent paid 2 months in advance, which we have right now. It’s the rest of the bills and money for living that I’m concerned about when he goes. Oh the stress. And the fact that my girls have never met their grandfather. I want them to meet him.
Pato has today off, so we’ll be talking and figuring out logistics and all that today.
Oh, the best part, if we drive, which we most likely will. That means that I will be coming back over the border by myself. With 3 kids. And driving from Texas to Iowa, by myself, with three kids. Oh the insanity that awaits me. Pato said he’d drive with me back up to the border. So, at least I wouldn’t be lost in Mexico where I don’t think the GPS on my phone works.
So that’s what’s going on here.
After all that, I just don’t feel right posting my products and specials, so I will say, they are in yesterday’s post, along with a coupon in the post below this one. Feel free to check them out.
I hope you have a good day and hug your loved ones!
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January 31st, 2008 at 2:38 pm
So sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope everything works out ok and that the kids don’t drive you nuts if you take the trip.
January 31st, 2008 at 2:41 pm
Hugs hon! I’m so sorry that this is going on. Please let Pato know I totally feel for him and understand a little cuz that’s what took my dad from us too. At least he was only 200 miles away from me and not an entire country. I feel so badly for him and wish him peace. I didn’t get your message til this morning, I’m sorry. I threw my phone in my purse and went to scrap. Never checked it til this morning. I didn’t want to call you too early and now we’re getting busy. I’ll try you at my lunch. On a good note, the weather is gonna suck here from about 10 pm to noon tomorrow so at least you won’t be driving through that. Hugs again and keep your chin up.
January 31st, 2008 at 3:01 pm
Oh Heather Im so sorry! What an unbelievable burden, I hope everything goeas OK and at least Pato can get there if noone else, I’ll send my prayers your way!
XO<
Sarah
Thanks for visiting my blog in such an emotional time.
January 31st, 2008 at 3:04 pm
Oh Heather I am so so sorry you have to go through this! Know that you have friends who will help if we can, he really is young to be given such a short time to live. I hope everything works out for you and your family to go see him, you will all be in my thoughts. Hang in there.
January 31st, 2008 at 3:20 pm
So sorry to hear about your FIL’s prognosis.
Prayers that everything will fall in to place for you and your family and you are free to go visit.
January 31st, 2008 at 3:41 pm
So sorry to hear about your FIL, I understand your desire for you kids to see their grandfather. I felt that way about my grandmother meeting her grandchildren to.
It’s a very tough decision to make, especially when it involves traveling with three small children such a long distance.
On other boards when folks have had something like this come up, folks along the travel route have offered to put them up or provide a meal to help them defray the cost of hotels etc. Maybe if you posted on DST folks would volunteer to help – I know I would if I lived even remotely close instead of half the country away.
January 31st, 2008 at 4:14 pm
Oh sweetie. Great big huge hugs to all ya’ll. I was watching the weather (we were supposed to get 5-8 inches last night) and thinking about you. Now this. Dammit man, folks get medical help all the time, why not this time? All ya’ll are in my thoughts & prayers.
January 31st, 2008 at 4:29 pm
Hi Heather – just stopping by to see what you’ve been up to. I’m so sorry to hear about Pato’s dad! Saying a prayer for you all. {{{Hugs}}}} – Darlene
January 31st, 2008 at 4:30 pm
OMG hun, I’m so sorry to hear all of this! I’ll be thinking about you and your family and hope you can all figure this out. You’ll do great driving, I just know you will!! So sorry to hear they couldn’t help him earlier to get that medical visa and hope he finds the right doctor in Mexico…
Big hugs to you! Take it easy and don’t worry too much, things will turn out right!
January 31st, 2008 at 5:07 pm
(((Hugs))) for you and Pato! I’m so sorry for the harem scarem need to find a way to Mexico and that the medical visa wasn’t approved. My heart is always on my sleeve for such circumstances. I hope all of the decison making you need to do will work out. Y’all are in my prayers!
January 31st, 2008 at 7:20 pm
Awww, Heather I’m so sorry that you’re all dealing with this right now. I hope that things work out and you’re all able to go and see his dad. {{HUGS}}
February 1st, 2008 at 8:57 pm
((((HUGS))))))
I’m praying for you guys, Heather. I totally feel for you. A lot of this reminds me of Vince’s recent trip to Penn. I”ll just pray that you all are able to come to a mutually beneficial solution. You’ve got my support, as I’m sure you know.
Lots of love.
February 2nd, 2008 at 2:31 pm
(((HUGS))) for you and the kids Heather! An option regarding school for Jordan might be to arrange a Home Bound program (we did that when my Grandma had her stroke) so that you get his assignments before you go and he works on them while you’re away and turns them in when he gets back. If you end up driving through El Paso, let me know, you’re really close to me then!
The new passport ID cards are less expensive and take less time and work in Mexico, so that might be another option too. I’ll say extra prayers for you guys!